Okay, for those who has just broke up, heres some tips to make you feel better, something i came up with, well out of 25 relationships, let just say, i learn from my mistakes. >.<
1. Burst ALL OUT
Like serious. Just cry it out loud, until your lungs hurt and your eyes bleed. Okay, that is just a metaphor. It's normal to cry, don't hold back your feelings, its not healthy. Eat ice-creams, chocolates, watch sad love movies, cuddle with your blankets and cry like you never cry before. BUT, make a deal with yourself first, example - I WILL BE SAD FOR 4 DAYS, ALL OUT UNTIL NO MORE LEFT. And stick with it ladies and gentlemen. After 4 days, STOP CRYING. JUST. STOP.
2. Surround yourself with family and friends
Make yourself busy, if you are the kind that cannot live with your hand-phones, delete everything about your ex, his/her number, email, text messages, pictures etc. U might already memorized the number, so be it. I wouldn't ask you to knock your head to the wall or something. Oh and please don't have a second thought. Don't you dare. And enjoy yourself with people that you love and people that you can trust. Come on, its not the end of the world. Dress up, eat fancy food, watch non-love movies, go crazy !
3. Be Taylor Swift
Also a metaphor. Just look at her, she's strong and she learns to appreciate herself. Nobody deserve to make you miserable, it's your body, your heart. Respect yourself. PERIOD.
Oh, and please. No begging-begging please, no 'i tak boleh hidup tanpa you-speech'. Yeah i know, been there done that. But it'll just makes you sound desperate and cheap. Don't do that especially if your so-called-spouse cheated on you or did something terrible to you. DON'T BE DESPERATE. DON'T BE PATHETIC. A big no-no.
4. Rebound?
Aha, rebounds. A rebound relationship is when the man or women is still suffering pain from an ex and decides to get involved right away to someone new so that they can distract themselves from their pain. It is counterproductive because a new partner won't take away that pain, they can only soothe the pain until he or she completely heals. When they do heal, they will no longer need or appreciate the reboundee's comfort. Well it actually depends whether you can handle another fake-relationship and if it doesn't work out well, you'll end up being SAD again. And fyi, rebound relationships may be more destructive than the earlier breakups.
I think the wisest course of action for the newly separated is just to be alone for a while, as long as it takes, until we've gotten rid of our ex-partners from our hearts, completely, and know who we really are. You need to make slow progress towards wholeness, not hiding from the pain when it comes. Don't rush your heart.
Don't think you're unlikeable! There's plenty of fish in the sea, he/she wasn't the fish you're emotions are telling you. Find someone else. Remember there will always be someone out there for you!
LOVE YOURSELF. X.
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